TMI Tuesday.

I can't eat solid foods today-- I'm having a colonoscopy tomorrow. Only popsicles, Jell-O and broth. (Thank the good lord I can have coffee and pop, at least.) So I'm a little cranky. But here goes...

1. What can you consider as the greatest thing you've ever done for/ to yourself?
Buying my first home. It’s been a year, and I am extremely proud of the fact that I could get approved for a mortgage, afford the little place, and have the satisfaction of being a homo... homo... homeowner. I walked out of the closing with all my paperwork, got in my car, and cried like a baby. It was exciting, scary, self-affirming, and represented my new life and independence.

2. What/ Which part of your life do you think you could have done better and why?
Career. I have always felt I was destined for great success as a performing artist, whether as an actor, singer, composer, pianist, etc. I discovered it at a time when a relationship meant more, so I shelved my plans. I’m just taking them off that shelf now and dusting them off for consideration.

3. Do you have that one person whom you consider to be the wind beneath your wings?
Wow. This is hard to answer. The simple answer would be no. But I have a lot of special who, when combined, are the wind beneath my wings. I’d say the one person who comes closest on their own would be my sister, who has survived breast cancer, raised a family, been a successful career gal, and makes a mean sweet potato casserole. She inspires me.

4. Tell us about your longest relationship.
There isn’t enough bandwidth on the entire web. The relationship lasted from 1988 until 2005. We had a commitment ceremony in 1991. We lived in five different places. There was lots of ugliness towards the end, when he fell in love with someone else. But we remain friends.

5. In a relationship, when do you get to that point of enough is enough?
When I realize that there is no longer “us” or “we”... when it becomes “him and me.” Or “he and I.”

Bonus (as in optional): What is that one intimate moment with someone you miss so much and what are you willing to risk to have another moment of it. ;)
This question is way too specific, as if the person wrote it with their own situation in mind. I don’t need to risk anything to recapture intimacy with anyone. That’s what memories are for. If it’s someone I “miss so much,” then they’re either dead or the relationship if over. Neither of those justify any kind of risk.