TMI Tuesday.

1. When was the last time someone hit on you? What went down?

April of this year. A guy decided we were in a relationship on our very first date. It felt more like a hook-up to me from the get-go, so I relented to going to bed with him. He started getting all cuddly and weird, talking in various foreign accents and referring to things that would be great to see in the future. I had to finally say, "I don't have sex on the first date. This was our first meeting. We had sex. Therefore, this was the last date." His response was, "Oh, so you got what you wanted, and that's it?" My reply? "No, I didn't really get what I wanted, and that's it." As to what went down? His self-esteem, my pride, and him. On me.

2. If you were single and could be with any one person, who would it be (thinking singer/actor or someone famous here, but whatever)?

George Eads from "CSI." He's my celebrity fantasy du jour. Or Adam Levine.

3. Have you ever had done anything sexual in your office or your place of employment?

Thankfully, no. Ewww. Such a turn-off.

4. Do you apologize when you make a mistake? How do you react when someone calls you out?

This question is kinda random, given this week's theme. Well, I prefer to be told in private rather than embarrassed in front of others. But if a mistake is corrected, it's a good thing, and of course I apologize. Unless I did it on purpose.

5. Top or bottom?

I used to think I was a top, but I've discovered fairly recently that I rather enjoy the bottom, too. So I am honestly versatile, with bottom proclivities. Though when asked, I will say. "I don't prefer top or bottom. I prefer 'next to.'"

Bonus (as in optional): How old were you when you first had a willing sexual experience?

Wow... without giving any details whatsoever... I was 14. And it was with a guy. My first and last time with a girl happened when I was 16.

TMI Tuesday.

You find a fairy. With a wave of their wand they can change anything for you.

What is the one thing you would change about your body?

I would be slim and have a nice chest and arms. Really, this guy's body would do me fine. My cock size is fine, my face is okay, my teeth I could have done. But a good torso takes work, so bring on the fairy. The one with the wand. Um, the magic wand.

What is the one personality trait you would change?

I'd like to not have bi-polar tendencies. Depression I keep under control with meds, but the anger side is not quite so easy to manage. I would no longer be short-tempered. It doesn't come out too often, but when it does, it's ugly.

What is the one thing about your job you would change?

I'd have one that I am passionate about, making at least as much as I do now.

What is the one thing about your home you would change?

I'm okay with my home, although getting a magic-wand wave from a fairy, I guess I'd want a bigger place, perhaps closer to the city.

Or a place in San Diego. Paid for.

What is the one thing about your Significant Other you would change?

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ... I would end up with a Significant Other. Probably the wand-waving fairy.

Who is the one person you would poof out of your life and why?

A woman at work who annoys me. I get along pretty well with people in general, so she's the only one who comes to mind. She's a passive-aggressive, small-minded beeyatch.

Who is the one person you would poof back in and why?

This is too selfish. Bringing someone back only means they would have to die all over again, and losing them once was enough. There's no one living that poofed out of my life-- I'm lucky that way.

TMI Tuesday.

Sheesh, has it been a week already?

1. What is your favorite song to have sex to?

One Gregorian chant or another. Because it's been that long.

No, I really don't have one... songs have so much meaning, memory and history for me that I would be distracted by music during sex. I would literally be playing an imaginary piano in my head (which I always do when I hear music). And it's hard to play piano with two hands while also putting your hands in two other places.

2. What is your vision of hell?

Being all alone, with no phone, and having really good gossip.

3. In the film made of your life, who will play you?

Someone once told me Jason Bateman. But I think Stephen Spinella would have more fun with the role. Actually, Mr. Spinella's getting up there in years, so perhaps he could play me in middle age and later.

4. What is the one thing you most urgently need to tell your mom?

That I'm not going to go to hell for being gay.

5. What will be carved onto your tombstone?

"What is your legacy?"

And the bonus: What is your drag name (which would be, first name: the name of your first pet; last name: the name of the street you grew up on)?

Now I heard that your soap opera character name is your middle name and the street you grew up on, and your drag (or porn) name is your first pet and your grandmother's maiden name. But going by this question, my drag name is "Sophie Ridgewood."

I prefer "Chloe Mydia."

TMI Tuesday.

1. What is your definition of romantic?

Inspiring intimacy, heightened senses, selfless acts of kindness and thoughtfulness; believing in fate and true love.

2. Would you consider yourself to be romantic?

Absolutely. To a fault. And by considering myself romantic, I mean I am a sucker for romance.

3. Is your significant other romantic?

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha...

I'm laughing because I don't have a significant other. And if I don't laugh, I'll cry. But when I someday do have a significant other, his being romantic is a prerequisite.

4. Have you ever chastised a SO for not being romantic enough or too romantic?

I don't understand this question. That "a SO" must be a typo. But either way, no one chastises me for shit like this. [Ed.-- I get it now. Have I ever chastised a "significant other" for etc. etc. No. Never chastised. Wished for more romance, yes. But chastised, no.]

5. What do you consider a grand romantic gesture? Have you ever been the recipient or giver of one?

A surprise trip to Paris. A candlelit sponge bath. A home-cooked candlelight dinner in the nude. Nope, never really gave or received any of these.

6. If you have done something romantic to get laid, did it work? If not, why and how did that affect your romantic tendencies in the past.

For me, that's not the purpose of doing something romantic, although it is often the bonus. But you do something romantic out of love and respect, with no ulterior motive in mind; otherwise, it's not real romance, it's seduction. That's a whole different TMI Tuesday topic.

7. What is the most romantic thing you have ever done? Had done for you?

Here's the sad thing... I can't think of an answer to either question. My longtime partner and I were not terribly romantic. I guess there were poignantly touching things we did, but they were so often more "gifty" than romantic. Wow... I guess I need some romance in a big way... before I become a bitter middle-aged queen.

TMI Tuesday.

I have a pinched nerve in my neck which is causing great pain. Ice, Motrin and Flexiril should help.

1. What is your language pet peeve. (example 'hot water heater', why would you heat hot water)

Well, I get annoyed when people mispronounce "nuclear" (nucular), "jewelry" (jewlery), "height" (heighth), and "drown" (dround). And there is no such word as "irregardless"-- it is a double-negative that renders itself pointless. But the one that really annoys me is when people say, "I could care less." They mean, of course, that they "couldn't care less." If they "could care less," then they really do care.

2. What is your favorite word? Both dirty and clean?

"Fuck." "Dream."

3. What is the one word you cannot spell?

Haven't met one yet.

4. What is the one word you always pronounce wrong?

I have a terrible time when I have to say the word "particularly." And I've had to say it in several plays.

5. If you could erase one popular catchphrase from the english language, what would it be?

Again, I could go on. I'll use George Carlin's. "Have a good one." Carlin's response? "I already have a good one-- what I want is a big one!"

Bonus (as in optional): The late, and very hot Michael Hutchence (INXS) once sang, "Words are weapons, sharper than knives" . What is the most hurtful thing you have ever said to anyone? Was it deliberate or accidental? What was the most hurtful thing ever said to you? Do you think it was deliberate or accidental?

I have been known to lose my temper and say a lot of hurtful things I regret later. The worst was, "I hate you." Yes, it was deliberate. I was called an asshole once by someone; that hurt. And yes, it was deliberate.

TMI Tuesday.

1. Do you believe anyone truly likes their job? If so, why?

I should hope lots of people like their job, although I think statistics show that about 75% or Americans hate their job. If you are doing what you love, and loving what you do, and making enough money for your needs and/or wants, that's the ultimate in job fulfillment.

2. Do you 1) live to work or 2) work to live 3) not see a difference?

I work to live, and I'm not happy about it. Self-actualization and success for me would be to achieve what is described in question one.

3. How many hours do you work a week?

40ish.

4. What was your safety item (i.e. blankie) from when you were little?

Biffy Bear. He was a Mattel product who talked when his string was pulled. He was eventually beheaded by my brothers. This was years before those same brothers put dog poop under my pillow.

5. Have you ever used food during sex?

Nah. I'm a Virgo, and food is messy. Ick.

Bonus (as in optional):What is your guilty food pleasure?

Little Debbie Nutty Bars. They're cheap, and horrible for me, and utterly magical.

TMI Tuesday.

What a weekend. I played and sang at a lovely memorial service for my dear friend Joan D, who passed away a couple weeks back after a (blessedly) brief battle with esophageal cancer. I also saw a show at Village Theatre Guild. Then there was the Tonys. Which had lots of musical performances, many of which I liked. I tend to be old-fashioned... maybe I'm getting old... but I did not enjoy "In the Heights" or "Passing Strange." I believe they both have merit and are great pieces, and I was inspired in particular by the story of how "In the Heights" came to be. I'm just soooo not into hip-hop or rap. And I won't even discuss "Xanadu" or "Cry Baby."

Last night was the annual awards night at my local theatre group. I was in charge of the production, which spoofed "Dancing With the Stars." It was cute and well-received. And now I can relax a bit.

On to the questions at hand...

1. What's your favorite color of lingerie?

If you're talking about women's unmentionables, I have no favorite color. Sorry, but a woman in her underwear does absolutely nothing for me.

If it's undies in general, and men are included, I guess black. Or white. Sheer white. Low-rise.

2. Do you have a porn collection?

I'm gay. Of course I do. Did Rose Kennedy have a black dress?

3. Do you have any fetishes?

I'm just going to leave it at yes, without going into any further detail.

4. What is your favorite place to have sex?

Well, a soft comfy bed works, but I'd love to try it in other places. I'd love to try it on a beach, in a swimming pool, outside in broad daylight. Really anywhere would be fun.

5. Do you like to scratch, bite, pull hair, etc? Do you like having it done to you?

This disgusts me. I absolutely hate having it done to me, and would never do it to anyone else. If others enjoy, more power to 'em.

Bonus (as in optional): Do you think the number of sexual partners you've had is below average, average, or above average, and how does that make you feel?

It's probably average, and I don't care. Any more than I care about the size of my dick or the amount of hair on my chest, or the amount of jizz I shoot. Really. It's pathetic that we spend so much time rating our sexual experiences based on comparison to those of other people. Who gives a shit?

But I do tend to shoot a lot of jizz. I mean, a LOT. I'm just sayin'. It is TMI Tuesday, after all.

TMI Tuesday.

Well, I haven't been very consistent about blogging lately, mostly because work is kinda busy right now. No excuse... blah blah blah...

So, here's my first TMI Tuesday in awhile...

1. If you're in love with your partner, does it make the sex better?

Well, it sure should, don't you think? I mean, you want it more, you value it more. Right?

2. What is the most expensive sex toy you've ever purchased?

A Fleshlight. It's a mouth one. I enjoy it. That's about as elaborate as my toys get.

3. If you knew ahead of time you would not have an orgasm, would you still have sex?

Absolutely. I have enjoyed the experience without an orgasm on many occasions. I'm a very sensual person, so making out and being intimate-- really intimate-- can rock my world.

4. What celebrity would you most like to have sex with if given the chance?

I guess Raoul Bova.

Or Eddie Cibrian.

I don't think about it very much.

Okay, I think about it sometimes.

Okay, always.

Okay, constantly.

The restraining orders are pretty much forever.

5. Have you ever had sex while an audience watched?

No, but if someone really wanted to watch, I wouldn't mind.

Bonus (as in optional): Describe the best sexual encounter you've ever had.

Oooh, a three-way with two really hot guys. One was Brazilian. The other was caucasian. Oh, the attention they paid. It was amazing. I could've done it over and over, all night...

TMI Tuesday.

1. How many credit cards do you own? Are they paid off?

Let's see... one store card and two major cards. And, yes, they are paid off. I only use them for emergencies. Otherwise, it's my debit card all the way. And all the time.

2. Can you be in love with someone you don't trust?

Absolutely not. I learned this from my relationship with Michael over the winter. No trust, no, love, no dice, no way.

3. Should prostitution be legal?

Define "prostitution." I've never really thought about this, but let's face it. There's supply and demand. It's not necessarily safe. It's potentially destructive, even deadly. It's gross... kinda. But it's everywhere, everyday. And some people need to pay a little to feel good.

But if that's the case, try porn. No. It should not be legal.

4. On a scale of 1-10, how good of a lover do you think you are? (1 is lowest, 10 is highest)

When in a mutually loving relationship with another person, we are all 10's, right? Because if the relationship is healthy, there is open communication, and you can tell one another what you want and need, and they will do it. (That was a run-on sentence, and I apologize.) But truly, tell me what you want, and I'll do the same. It's not like you get one shot, and if the judges give you low scores you're out. It's a work in progress. For intimacy, honesty, sexiness, excellent oral skills, and great skin-- I am a 10.

5. What are three mistakes someone could make on the first date with you that would automatically make you turn down a second date with them?

First, talking about anything in "our" future, or referring to us in any kind of relationship context.

Second, anything involving drugs. (Except nicotine.)

Third, lying about something basic. Like their age. This is huge for me. First date, and they're already lying. It's over before it began.

Bonus (as in optional): Tell us about your worst date ever.

It was the one and only time I met someone who had no face picture on their profile. We met via an online personals site, and he invited me to come over for dinner on a summer Sunday afternoon. He was Italian, his name was Sam, and he was 45 years old. Charming. Funny. He gave me directions to his house in a nice northwest suburb of Chicago.

As I drove up to his house, he stepped out the front door. He was 5 feet 4, stubby, chubby, balding, and looked to be about 60 or more. And old-world Italian. I felt immediately foolish. I should have driven off then and there. But I decided to be gracious. He had cooked a lavish Italian dinner, which I had to sit through and eat. He told me of his family home in Tuscany, the estate which belonged to him, and said, "If you behave like a good boy, someday that home in Tuscany will be yours." Seriously. Fuck.

I had noticed a portrait of him and his parents on the wall in his living room (nestled between large and frightening statues of saints and Virgin Mary's and hideous, overwrought, Florida-colored velvet furniture). He said in the portrait his mother was 50 and he was 35. Later he said his mother had died at the age of 80. Do the fuckin math. I pretended that my cell phone vibrated, took a pretend call and excused myself immediately to attend to a "family emergency."

Scary. Awful. Funny now, but quite a lesson. Many lessons.

TMI Tuesday.

1. Stubble... good or bad? How often do you shave?

I love kissing a guy with stubble. And I love when a guy enjoys me rubbing my scruffy face on his. I use a trimmer every two or three days for the scruffy stubbly look. Then every other day or so I use a razor (in the shower) to shave my neck and even the beard along the jawline and keep my cheeks clean.

Shaving the nuts... well, I don't do it often enough.

2. If someone shoves you up against a wall while kissing you, your reaction is?

"If that leaves a mark on my wall, you're dead."

OR

"Ouch! Mind the hair."

OR

"Sorry, girlie, but I'm gay."

3. Did you ever own a fake ID?

No. I never needed one. I was a pretty boring, sheltered kid.

4. Have you ever played a game which may require you or others to disrobe?

See last week's TMI Tuesday.

5. Have you ever had sex in the snow? Rain?

No to both, but my gal pal RaeAnn from grad school used to call me when it rained and say, "Hey little boy, wanna go outside and play?" And we would run around in the quad in our bare feet in the rain, then find a secluded spot under a tree or in a building alcove and drink wine.

Bonus (as in optional): Tell us about your last boyfriend/girlfriend?

Um, no. See previous posts for that story. He's dead to me now.

TMI Tuesday.

Just a little late....

1. In the midst of a hangover have you ever promised to "never drink again?" How long until you broke that vow?

Yes, I have made that promise, and it has been about 8 years since I really “drank,” meaning enough to be sick-drunk. I really used to be a binge-drinker… I’d only drink every few months, but when I did, I didn’t know when to stop. I was once sick right on the bar at a place in Chicago, after too many Sea Breezes. Since I’m on anti-depressants, I must limit my drinking or risk being really sick.

Now, last year at Pride I had a bit too much to drink, but my friend Jackie and I always cure the hangover that night with beef and cheese sandwiches from Buena Beef… and fries and a Diet Coke. Works like a charm every year.

2. What is the stupidest thing you have ever done while drinking (or not if it is really stupid) but thought it seemed like a good idea at the time?

In college, I had 14 Southern Comfort slammer shots, then played strip poker with 2 girls and another guy, and lost… and woke up naked and sicker than a dog on the floor of my friend’s apartment.

3. On a scale of 1-10, where do you rate green beer?

0… I’m not Irish, and I think the whole thing is irrelevant. I used to like beer a lot, but now it gives me horrible headaches if I have more than one or two. I really am not too fascinated with drinking at all... being an adult child of an alcoholic (though he's now been sober for about 17 years), it's probably a good thing I don't imbibe very often.

4. Have you ever kissed someone you shouldn't have (drunk or sober)?

Yes indeedy… a girl. In grad school. We ended up sleeping together, although nothing happened (duh). We literally just slept together. There were many guys I kissed while drunk… too many to remember.

5. What is the stupidest thing you have ever seen a drunk do (besides driving a car)?

I really can’t think of anything. Stupidest? I guess trying to walk across a busy street with lots of traffic. I was dumbfounded at the ignorance of that.

Bonus (as in optional): How do you cure your hangover(s)?

Motrin, Diet Coke, and sleep. And as soon as possible, some bread to soak up what’s still in my stomach. I also find that drinking pop or water in between drinks helps dilute the alcohol and keeps a hangover at bay. I'm safest with vodka, which has very little effect on me. I enjoy a nice vodka and water, dirty, with small olives... on the rocks.

TMI Tuesday.

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TMI Tuesday.

My sweet old dog Bailey is sick... looks like he has some kind of infection in his gums. Poor old guy. Guess I'll be going to the vet this morning, since I don't work until 1:00 p.m. Anyway, on to the questions...

1. Under what conditions would you kiss a stranger?
Well, there’s a kiss, and there’s a KISS. A friendly kiss on the lips could happen almost anytime or place. But a full-out lip-lock would require lots of alcohol, methinks.

2. Who was the last person you sent a text message to? If you’ve never sent someone a text message, is there some reason?
I emailed my friend Jimmy (the gym teacher from the school I used to teach at) to respond to a text he sent me. I really miss him a lot, and he misses having me there. Texting is one of the ways we keep in touch—other than that, I’m not much of a texter.

3. When was the last time you deliberately surprised someone?
Well, I surprised my co-worker and dear friend Penny with a birthday gift—a photo album for vacation pictures, specifically from the Caribbean cruise she’s taking in April.

4. How often do walk somewhere (hopefully, other than the mailbox)?
Several times a day... I have a dog, and no yard! Bailey loves his walks, even in this horrific Chicagoland winter weather. The only time he doesn’t like to walk is when it’s raining.

5. What were the longest and shortest durations of your romantic relationships?
Longest: 16+ years. Shortest: two weeks.

Bonus (as in optional): What is missing from your life?
Fulfillment in my career. I haven’t yet found the courage to fully explore the possibilities for me as a performer.

TMI Tuesday.

I can't eat solid foods today-- I'm having a colonoscopy tomorrow. Only popsicles, Jell-O and broth. (Thank the good lord I can have coffee and pop, at least.) So I'm a little cranky. But here goes...

1. What can you consider as the greatest thing you've ever done for/ to yourself?
Buying my first home. It’s been a year, and I am extremely proud of the fact that I could get approved for a mortgage, afford the little place, and have the satisfaction of being a homo... homo... homeowner. I walked out of the closing with all my paperwork, got in my car, and cried like a baby. It was exciting, scary, self-affirming, and represented my new life and independence.

2. What/ Which part of your life do you think you could have done better and why?
Career. I have always felt I was destined for great success as a performing artist, whether as an actor, singer, composer, pianist, etc. I discovered it at a time when a relationship meant more, so I shelved my plans. I’m just taking them off that shelf now and dusting them off for consideration.

3. Do you have that one person whom you consider to be the wind beneath your wings?
Wow. This is hard to answer. The simple answer would be no. But I have a lot of special who, when combined, are the wind beneath my wings. I’d say the one person who comes closest on their own would be my sister, who has survived breast cancer, raised a family, been a successful career gal, and makes a mean sweet potato casserole. She inspires me.

4. Tell us about your longest relationship.
There isn’t enough bandwidth on the entire web. The relationship lasted from 1988 until 2005. We had a commitment ceremony in 1991. We lived in five different places. There was lots of ugliness towards the end, when he fell in love with someone else. But we remain friends.

5. In a relationship, when do you get to that point of enough is enough?
When I realize that there is no longer “us” or “we”... when it becomes “him and me.” Or “he and I.”

Bonus (as in optional): What is that one intimate moment with someone you miss so much and what are you willing to risk to have another moment of it. ;)
This question is way too specific, as if the person wrote it with their own situation in mind. I don’t need to risk anything to recapture intimacy with anyone. That’s what memories are for. If it’s someone I “miss so much,” then they’re either dead or the relationship if over. Neither of those justify any kind of risk.

TMI Tuesday.

Wow, this is a pretty lame set of questions...

1. Which one turns you on more Ink or piercing? Why?

And this is why this is one of the worst TMI Tuesdays ever. Because there is an assumption that everyone prefers either ink or piercing. I detest them both. Heartily.


Piercing... well, the occasional earlobe (and only one per earlobe, please) is okay, but so 1993. I was more than a little turned off by Daniel Day-Lewis at the Golden Globes, with two oversized hoops hanging from his ears. "Daniel, Mr. T called... he wants his earrings back."

Regarding tattoos, I guess it's the neat-and-orderly Virgo in me, but I find it gross and unfortunate that people choose to permanently have a picture drawn on their skin. To me, nothing is sexier than a completely naked body... when there is a tattoo, no matter where, that person is no longer naked in my eyes.

2. What ink do you have? If none, what would you get and and where?

I have none, I want none, I would never get any.

3. What piercing do you have? If none, what would you get and and where?

Again, no way. Yuck.

4. Any other adornments you like to do for your lover or have then do for you?

They're not necessary for me. On a lover, I would find them a real turn-off. I wouldn't do any of these for my lover (okay, maybe one ear piercing-- but that's it).

5. Of all of the above is there anything that is an immediate Turn-Off?

ALL of the above.

Bonus (as in optional): If money/work place rules/your life/whatever what ALL would you do to your body in the name of sexual or just general adornment?

Well, the question is clearly missing the words "were no object," but I get the idea. And the answer is nothing. I might invest in a personal trainer and a home gym to work out in, but that's merely for weight loss / strength training, not adornment.

Triumphant TMI Tuesday Return!

My internet issues are temporarily solved at home. Apparently, something is wrong with my ethernet card, since I can get online using USB. In addition, a lineman has been dispatched to look at the uptake on the outside cable. Wow, did I really say and understand all that? I'm a-skeert by that.

Anyway, it's TMI Tuesday, and I'm back. Onward...

1. By what nickname(s) were you known as a child?

My mom called me "Doug the Bug" and sometimes DJ. My siblings called me Dougary... a nickname I hated then, but sort of like now.

2. Do you have a favorite poem and, if so, what is it? Recite it (or a snippet) here, please.

"The Road Not Taken" by Robert Frost

Two roads diverg'd in a wood and I

I took the road less traveled by

And that has made all the difference.

3. What is your greatest regret in life, something that you failed to do that you wish you did?

Stayed single longer while I was young.

4. You are tired and hungry, but it's too late to cook. If any snack food were available to you, what would you choose and why?

If I'm wanting sweet, it's Peanut M&M's. If it's salty, it's Country Crock mac and cheese. Why? because I'm tired and hungry.

5. What is the oldest item of clothing (not jewelry!) that you wear regularly and what do you love about it?

I have a pair of black jeans that are at least 10 years years old. They're from the Gap and they have held up very well, despite some minor fraying at the bottom. They fit perfectly whether I'm skinny or a little overweight, and I'm sure people at work used to say, "He's wearing those same black jeans again." But I don't care... I love 'em!

Bonus (as in optional):Name a movie or TV show that changed your thinking or behavior.

I remember watching the tv show "Brothers" on Showtime, circa 1984, with my family. It was a series about three brothers, one of whom is gay. It was very self-affirming for me, as I had recently come out to my own brothers.

And "Battle of the Network Stars," when I saw Tom Selleck in a Speedo and my gayness was cemented. Forever. [Sigh.]

TMI Tuesday.

It's all about books! And I'm a librarian! Big friggin' deal!

1. What was your favorite book as a kid?
Oh, I always loved “My Father’s Dragon”, as well as “A Wrinkle in Time.”

2. If you were stranded on that proverbial desert island (again!), what book or books (up to 5) would you want to have with you?
I would definitely want “The Stand” by Stephen King, “Flesh & Blood” by Michael Cunningham, “Naked” by David Sedaris, “Letters From a Nut,” by Ted L. Nancy, and “The World Almanac.”

3. What was the first "naughty" book you read and in what way was it naughty?
I read “Flowers in the Attic” and almost all of its sequels, and they had some titillating sex in them... and since they were aimed at girls around my age, they always described the male characters in terms of sex appeal.

4. If you were to publish your autobiography today, what would be the title?
Either “Legacy,” “I Get That a Lot,” or “This Life is a Gyp!”

5. Would you rather look at nude pictures/pornography or read erotic fiction and why?
Pictures... I can make up my own fiction in my mind, but the visuals really turn me on. I read once that it’s a guy thing.

Bonus (as in optional):Do you know the whereabouts today of the first person with whom you had sex?
Nope... he was a hottie, too. A male nurse, about 10 years older than me. Italian. No idea whatever happened to him.

TMI Tuesday.

1. If you could live in any home on a television series, what would it be?



Wow, it's a toss-up between the Bewitched house and the Brady Bunch house... because I spent so much time in both of them, I'd feel at home in either one. Incidentally, my two favorite tv dads were Mike Brady and Darrin Stephens (#2), both played by gay actors. Not surprised.





2. If you had a clone, what would you make it do so you could have free time?


Go to work for me. Duh. I have direct deposit, so I could just basically shop all the time.

How shallow of me.



3. Who was your best friend when you were 8? When you were 13?


When I was 8? Hmmmmm.... I guess it was Eugene Buza. He was supposed to be a grade ahead, but he was held back. He had lots of issues, and my siblings made fun of him (behind his back), but he was pretty funny and we got into lots of trouble together. Sadly, he was riding his bike and hit by a car and killed at the age of 30 or so.


When I was 13? It was Wendy Rezab, my then girlfriend. She moved away at the end of freshman year of high school. I just tracked her down a little over a year ago and came out to her on National Coming Out Day. She was my first kiss... with a girl, I mean. Her breath always smelled of onions. That's why I'm gay.



4. If you could travel anywhere, where would it be & why?





I don't know... I've never been outside North America, really, so anywhere in Europe would be a start. Austria and Switzerland appeal to me. And Greece (specifically, Mykonos) ... for the men. (Again, I'm feeling kinda shallow tonight.)





5. Would you hate losing your sight or hearing most?


Hearing. Period. I'm a musician.



Bonus (as in optional): Nature or nurture?


NATURE! I don't blame my tv dad role models or my onion-breathed first girlfriend.

And stop asking this question, world.

TMI Tuesday.

1) Do you have/ever had any dating or sex superstitions? (Wear 'lucky jeans' on first date, always light a vanilla candle, etc.) If so, what are they?

I’m not that superstitious about dating or sex. Despite almost 3 years of dating, there were no tricks that I would have used or needed. It’s all about fate and chemistry.

2) If you were stranded on the old deserted island, and a genie appeared who could only grant you one wish -- to bring one of the following people to join you, who would it be? - your spouse/significant other - an unrequited love or some person you've had a crush on - an old/past love - your best friend

My significant other is now my best friend, so that answers that.

3) Tell us "weather or not" you're in the mood -- how does rain, snow, sleet, scorching heat, sweltering humidity etc. affect your libido.

Well, I’m always in the mood, and I sleep nude year-round (thank the good lord for electric blankets), but I am much more horny in the summer.

4) Are you a crying drunk, an angry drunk, a 'I'm drunk, let's screw' sort of a drinker? (And, if you do not drink -- which one of those things is the reason?)

I don’t drink enough anymore to actually get drunk—I’m on meds and I grew up with an alcoholic father—but when I used to binge drink, I got horny and very honest.

5) Who turns you on the most & why: [the activist, the author, the care-giver/healer (nurse, doctor, masseuse, herbalist, chiropractor, etc.), the comedian, the educator (professor, teacher, mentor etc.), the model, the musician, the politician, the scientist]

The care-giver/healer is noble, and I’m turned on by the idea of having sex with him and seeing the not-so-noble side of him… also the idea of getting to “give” to him for a change.

Bonus (as in optional): Looking back, what's the one thing you've done which was supposed to be erotic, but didn't quite work out?

Sex in a bathtub. Jizz and water do not mix, and the clean-up is frightful.

TMI Tuesday.

Happy New Year! I was delighted to see Stephen is back in town and blogging again!

1. Last week was "The Most Wonderful time of the Year", but what are your favorite 2007 memories?

Buying my first house, moving in, and decorating it.

The Wizard of Oz.

The Dining Room.

Fifth of July.

Showtune.

A Midsummer Night's Cabaret.

The Annual SOC Benefit with AnnieGrace and friends.

Any Stephen / AnnieGrace event (AIDS Walk, Larry Sloan Awards, Disco Ball)

Falling in love with Michael.

2. What is the best thing you learned in 2007?

Patience, both in love / relationships, and in life.

3. On a scale of 1-10, how good was your 2007?

I'd give it an 8, especially because of August through December (finding a good therapist and then finding a boyfriend).

4. What is your wish for 2008? What is your wish for someone else for 2008?

My wish for me is that I'll have enough money to be comfortable and not have to worry. And my wish for someone else is that they will be able to treat her cancer and improve her quality of life.

5. If you knew that you were going to die in 2008 what one thing would you do?

Can't just name one thing... I would quit my job and travel, spend more time with those I love, and get my songs published.

Bonus (as in optional):Do you make New Year's resolutions? What is/are your's for 2008?

Well, I'd like to eat better and exercise more. Then I could look like this (thank you, Photoshop!):